12 things to do when you feel depressed


Do you suffer from depression? I do, and I tell you, it can be a bitch! I’m not talking about having a “bad day” and situational depression, which we all have occasionally. I am talking about when the deep, dark cloud that follows you wherever you go and renders you useless, fatigued, low, and not caring about anything enough to take action.

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I am a fighter, and I have gotten through many a bout of the lows by burying myself in action and work, but don’t end feel like cooking, eat on an irregular schedule (and not healthy things) and I I neglect my surroundings by just leaving things around, and not having the order around me that I usually thrive on. For those who suffer from depression, it manifests differently.

I recently came through a particularly difficult bout with these demons as I often do in the winter when the sun is farther away and it is overcast for days on end. I did get work done and I was able to get by and serve my current clients pretty well. I was able to take care of others, but let myself go in many ways. I kept forgetting to eat, therefore had a very irregular schedule in both work and food (I usually thrive on schedule.) I stopped my workouts, which are one of my favorite things, noticed that I was gaining a bit of weight and though I suspected it was because of my irregular eating and poor choices (I am usually more of a health nut) when it was really because of something deeper.

I have learned a few ways through my life’s journey to pull out of a depression, and I wanted to share a few with you. Now that I am out of that hole and feel much better I am able to clearly see some of the things that helped me out. It is a continual journey, and I know it isn’t the last time. Life is full of cycles and we are not all meant to be “up” all of the time. Down time and dealing with personal demons and shadows is an important part of life, I am not proposing that you go for perfect, but leveling out your moods when they are extreme (both highs and lows) is a helpful way to be more effective in life.

1~ Don’t listen to people who tell you to “snap out of it.”~

Just don’t. Try not to be triggered, put your focus on detachment and not reacting to your anger at that misunderstood statement. Some people just don’t get it.

2~Dance and music~

I’m always recommending dancing and music as a way to pull out of the doldrums, put on something catchy, even a “guilty pleasure” song, and move. Dance goofy, even just sway back and forth or move your head to the music. Music is healing.

3~Omega-3 Fatty acids~

Omega 3 Fatty-acids play an important role in brain function and a well functioning nervous system, ease inflammation, improve mental health, and lengthen life overall. They have been shown to improve depression, even bipolar depression.

EPA and DHA can be obtained through fish oil, but for vegans you can take Algae-Based Omega 3s. I urge you to seek more information and be careful of your source. Oily fish such as salmon can contain Mercury (which is bad for brain health) which is why I love the algae-based supplements. 

4~Amino Acids~

Recently a dear friend who was clued in to my suffering sent me a wonderful book that is full of information about leveling your moods with Amino Acids. It is ‘The Mood Cure’ by Julia Ross. It is full of great information, BUT, if you suffer from bipolar depression, be careful because it’s easy to trigger hypomania or mania. Again, I am not an expert, so this is a direction you can look into.

5~ Chemical free living~

Think about all of the toxic chemicals that are in your life, home, cleaning and body care products. Replacing them with less toxic and natural options will improve your overall health, and this includes depression.

6~Clean eating~

I know you don’t feel like cooking when you’re depressed, most likely. I know that I have that issue when I am at my lowest. I will say that when you push through it and prepare simple foods for yourself, it helps immensely.

The act of feeding your body with respect is often enough to improve your mood. I realize that this may not be an option when you are at the lowest point. Perhaps ask for help. Ask a family member to cook instead, ask a friend for help, or if those things are not an option, just make an effort to eat on a schedule.


Again, another challenge for some when you’re at the lowest point. Just know that when you push through and do something, it WILL improve your mood and give you a sense of accomplishment.

Try YOGA, dancing, or Kettlebell Swings (which work your whole body as well as give you cardio.) I also run FITness challenge groups pretty often, if you're interested in jumping in you can APPLY HERE to get on the list.

 Please think about that, the group support really helped me stick with it as well and I made new friends and connections (yet another way not to be isolated.)

8~ Energy healing~

This can be miraculous, you can release the toxins and tension in and around your body. Energy healing like Reiki, or vibrational healing like sound or crystal healing will clear and align your energy body and is very effective at healing/ supporting you through depression.

9~ Friendships~

I am lucky enough to have good friendships with people who are honest with me. I asked a dear friend if she sensed that i was going through a real depression and she did get honest with me. I was able to talk with her and she didn’t judge me.

If you’re lucky enough to have a good friend, talk to them, but remember, they are not your therapist, so keep the friendship balanced and don’t be an emotional vampire by taking, taking, taking. Ask about their lives also.

10~ Therapy~

That brings me to therapy. I found a therapist who is also an energy healer. She does EFT, and other forms of energy clearing as well as talk therapy. I also had a relationship with a wonderful therapist for years and I saw her until she moved out of town. it took me several tries to find a good one who resonated with me. Interview a few until you find the right one.

11~ Coaching~

Coaching is not therapy, but a good coach can help you work through a lot of things.I help women find body positive ways to be healthy and step into nutritiously sound, happy, purposeful lives. 

I urge you to see which coach resonates with you. Most offer sessions where you can talk a bit and both determine your fit and if the coach can serve you in the best way. If you want to open a conversation, CONTACT ME here.

12~~When all else fails~

Or in addition to these other things, don’t feel guilty about going to a trusted DR. I recommend first trying a Naturopath or a doctor that is friendly to natural therapies. Align yourself and seek help if you need to.

If you feel so dark that you wish you would just end, or just can’t function, no guilt about even turning to an allopathic DR. Sometimes meds will get you through. No guilt. No guilt, no guilt.


Kelly is a Certified Nutrition & Wellness Coach, Holistic Wellness Practitioner and Certified Crystal Healer.

She is here to help you feel comfortable in your body and BE-you-tiful through body positive outlook and making permanent changes in your health, weight and life!

Yes, it's possible to be body positive and also release the weight, depression, anxiety and unhealthy habits to feel confident, healthy and fabulous!

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